Us mamas gotta to have faith in something big. We are much stronger than we think.
“Motherhood is more than a stage - itʼs a lifelong calling from God. With it He gives us hearts that love deeply, hands that serve tirelessly, and vision to see His blossoming image in the precious ones entrusted to our care.” - Author Unknown
Do you ever stop and wonder, "Wow! How did I get here?" "Who am I now?" Life is so busy when kids are in the picture. I had no clue how much motherhood would totally rock my world. It changes everything, doesn't it? It really is crazy how you have no idea what that even means until you have a child of your own.
You have to believe that you can do this motherhood thing - because you totally can. You have to and deep down you want to. I remember calling my mom in tears when Madilyn was a newborn and crying to her. “Mom, I canʼt do this! I donʼt know why she is crying! I am SO tired!” My mom gave me amazing advice. “Betsy, you can do this. You totally can. You have to. You have to take control and have faith and believe you are an amazing mom. Trust and believe in yourself. Also, have fun with this new stage in your life.”
Have fun? I was having a really hard time enjoying the craziness of the newborn stage. I totally had postpartum depression after Madilyn was born AND after Juliana was born. It was different with each but there it was - both times. I was sad and anxious, it was the middle of winter (for both of my girls!) and impossible to get out the house, and my hubby worked crazy long hours at work. The crying of a newborn brought me to tears often. I felt alone. I felt sad. I was depressed. However, I survived and I even came to a place where the depression was lifted, the weather changed, and I now I really enjoy being the mama to my two beautiful little girls.
You have to have faith that you will survive and that this is the work you are meant to do at this moment. You are the most important person to your child. Remember this. After each of my girls were born, I stayed home with them. They are 6 and 3 and I am still home. 7 years ago, I left my demanding, high stress consulting career, started my health coaching business, BMoore Healthy, and became a work-at-home-mama.
On this motherhood journey, I have learned to have to have faith in:
1. God - Becoming a parent has brought me closer to my faith. As a family, we go to church weekly and prayer has gotten me through the biggest motherhood challenges. If religion is not for you, find something that is - yoga, meditation, long walks, hot baths after the kids go to bed - whatever gives you peace, a break, and leaves you in a better state of mind.
2. Myself - Sometimes I just look at my kids and I can not believe that I made them. I MADE them. Amazing. During stressful and challenging times, I remind myself that I know my kids best. I have to listen to my gut, relax, remember how little they are and take pride in the fact that I am their mom. This role is a privilege.
3. Other Mothers - Now that I am a mom, I have even more respect for all the other mamas I know, especially single moms, moms of more than 2 kids, moms of twins, my grandma who had 9 kids (What?!?!). You are all rock stars. You inspire me daily.
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