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Why I am not sending Christmas cards

December 18, 2020 by Betsy 7 Comments

I am not the Grinch, I promise - but I have to tell you why I am not sending Christmas cards. I am trying to keep things in perspective this holiday season and remember what is truly important.

For years, Brian and I have sent out Christmas cards to 100+ of our closest and dearest friends and family. This holiday season we are really trying to start our own traditions, reduce the stress, minimize all of the unnecessary pressures and get back to the real meaning of Christmas. So, I decided that we are not sending cards out this year.

Every year I look at my list and decide what new friends "make the cut." I ask Brian, "Should I send one to that new girl that works at your office? or "Should I keep sending one to your great uncle, what's his name?" This year we are asking ourselves different questions such as "What are we trying to say with this Christmas card?", "Does sending Christmas cards bring us closer to the holiday spirit?" and "Is all of this really necessary?"

Here are my reasons why I am skipping cards this year:

Paper cards are big business. First, let's chat about the cards available out there. Holy overwhelm. Big business, my friends. You could pick up a few boxes of cards from Target or Wal-Mart with scenes of happy kids in the snow or Mickey Mouse dressed in red and green. Or you can order one online where you upload the best, most professional, most put-together picture of you, your hubby and your perfect children. Insert pic here.

Don't get me wrong, it is fun receiving the cards. However, they don't feel personal anymore so I question if sending a generic paper card is pretty much like doing a holiday e-card?

Brian and I started sending out Christmas cards back in 2009 when Madilyn was born and our Christmas cards have been pictures of the kids ever since. This year, as I was looking through the millions of card options on Minted and MPix and Shutterfly, I got an icky feeling in the pit of my stomach. It just didn't feel right. I turned to Brian and said, "You know what? I am not doing cards this year." He smiled. He totally got what I was feeling.

A few weeks ago, we did what we do every year in the fall - we struggle through family photos with two unhappy kiddos. I planned our outfits for weeks. The weather doesn't really cooperate. One kiddo doesn't want to smile. One kiddo doesn't want to keep her hat on. Brian just wants to get it over with and get dinner, for goodness sake. All of this so we can get the perfect picture worthy of making the front of the Christmas card. As I was looking through all of the pictures that the photographer sent, I started to feel guilty, embarrassed and let's be honest, boastful. At this moment,Brian and I are incredibly blessed. We are healthy. The girls are healthy. Do I really need to send a photo of all of us to our friends and family to celebrate Christmas? Can't I just post a few pictures on my blog and on social media (because let's face it, everyone is there anyway!).

I wish I could send everyone in my life a personal, handwritten note. However, unless I figure out a way to clone myself, that is just not happening. I might order a couple for really close family and friends and write a message on the back and hand deliver. We will see!

I remember the year I had my miscarriage. I remember receiving cards from friends and family with perfectly healthy babies. Of course, I was happy for them but of course, it was a reminder of what I had lost. I think about all of the wonderful women in my life right now who are struggling with getting pregnant or who have lost a child or are going through a marriage separation. We live in a world where loads and loads of photos are shared on blogs and social media. Sometimes it just feels boastful. I am guilty as well. There is a fine line.

I guess every person, every family has a unique journey and if sharing happy, smiling photos of ourselves and our kids help spread joy, then great. However, I think that spending a ton of money to send cards out may not be the only way to spread that holiday joy. Christmas time can be a sad time for many people. It may trigger sad memories and bring on depression and loneliness like no other time of the year. My wish is that you do what feels right to you. No pressure. No expectations. No judgement.

How does one decide who makes the list? It just feels so strange. As a blogger and health coach who spends a lot of time online for my business, I feel like I make new friends every day! I wish I could send a card to everyone but that is just not possible. Therefore, I am treating this blog post as my Christmas card this year. As I type, I am thinking about the hundreds of women who sign up for every single program I offer. I am thinking about the new mom who sent me an email thanking me for my post about my struggles with postpartum depression. I am thinking about the moms out there who work two jobs just to make ends meet. No one needs the added pressure this holiday season. I give you permission to say no to whatever is causing you stress.

Is it worth the cost, time, pressure and environmental footprint?For us this year, it's not. Next year? Who knows. Maybe it will be. I will have to reevaluate. Instead, we are taking some of that money this year and making a donation to a charity. Also, think about all the paper that is used and thrown away every Christmas. Yikes.

Christmas is a special time to celebrate love and faith. It is a special time to be grateful for the people who love and believe in you. As my readers and fans, I am so grateful to you. Happy Holidays. This is my holiday card to you. I wish you a holiday season full of magic, love, faith, happiness and simplicity. Thank you for being so great and supportive. I hope that this post relieves some of the holiday pressure. I give you permission to say NO to some of those expectations. Instead, relax, breathe and enjoy the magic.

Amazing Photos by Christy Pagac and Amy Wilson Photography

Now as well close 2018 and welcome 2019, I still made my crew get holiday pictures taken yet the Christmas cards didn't happen yet again. You know what? That is OK. Happy holidays to you all!

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Comments

  1. Maggie says

    December 5, 2014 at 8:34 am

    How beautiful! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I LOVE to send Christmas cards, but this year and the past few years I have been totally overwhelmed by it. We send 150+. The money, time, etc. spend on them is crazy! I’ve been going back and forth in my head about what to do. I’ve thought about sending electronically, handing out, etc. I’m done thinking about it! Thank you for giving me the motivation to take this step! 🙂

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    • Betsy says

      December 5, 2014 at 8:31 pm

      Awe Maggie! I think we are two peas in a pod. XOXO

      Reply
  2. Jory Peterson says

    December 5, 2014 at 8:28 pm

    Love, Love, Love!!! I adore you Betsy!!! You are such an inspiration! 🙂

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    • Betsy says

      December 5, 2014 at 8:30 pm

      Awe Jory I adore you too my dear. XOXO

      Reply
  3. Pat says

    December 12, 2014 at 5:04 pm

    I don’t know how you can stop yourself from sending that photo of the girls holding up the Merry Christmas banner to everyone in the world but, hey, I guess that’s not realistic eh? Seriously, you are so right on many levels. Good for you putting family first, determining your own traditions, taking off the pressure and enjoying the holiday. Thanks for sharing!

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    • Betsy says

      December 13, 2014 at 12:51 pm

      Awe thank you so much Pat! Believe me, I wish I could send to everyone! XOXO

      Reply

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  1. Top 7 tips for a less stressful holiday season - BMoore Healthy says:
    December 5, 2018 at 10:09 am

    […] 3. Start your holiday cards now (If you do them). Don't wait until the week before Christmas to start addressing envelopes. No fun. Start early and do a few every night and before you know it, they are done! For me, this is always the task that gets dropped because I run out of time. If it is important to you, make it happen! If it is not, no worries. When my girls were really little I took this task off my list. […]

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